When you grow up in an environment where love felt inconsistent or unpredictable, your nervous system becomes finely tuned to threat. You might not even realise you’re doing it, but you’re always picking up on the smallest changes in mood
When you grow up in an environment where love felt inconsistent or unpredictable, your nervous system becomes finely tuned to threat. You might not even realise you’re doing it, but you’re always picking up on the smallest changes in mood, expression, or energy. You know when something’s off, even if no one says a word. As an adult, it can feel like you’re just intuitive. And in a way, you are, but it’s not always coming from a grounded place. Often, it’s your system staying on high alert because it never learned what safety really feels like. Healing isn’t about switching this off. It’s about helping your body learn that not every silence is danger, not every frown means you’ve done something wrong, and not every shift in tone is a sign that love is being withdrawn. 👉 Download my free guide “Trauma, Survival & Grounding” for tools to start gently unwinding these survival patterns — link in bio. #trauma #complextrauma #childhoodtrauma #relationships #healing
After my dad died suddenly, my whole system went into fear mode. I became convinced that danger was always around the corner and that everyone I loved was going to die too. The world no longer felt safe. I tried to cope by controlling everything I could. But control didn’t bring safety, it just kept me stuck in fear. It wasn’t until I started EMDR that things began to shift. My brain and body finally had a chance to process the trauma, and I came to understand: it wasn’t that danger was everywhere, it was that my nervous system was still holding onto the pain of the past. EMDR quite literally changed my life. I no longer live in fear. And while my loss will always be a part of me, it no longer defines my world. I can see beauty again, even in the hard moments. If you’re feeling stuck, overwhelmed or afraid, and nothing seems to be working—maybe it’s time to ask: what would it be like to try something different? #emdr #traumahealing #traumahealingjourney #complextrauma #healing
When love, safety, or approval felt conditional growing up, performing became protection. You learned early that being good, clever, helpful, or exceptional got you what you needed — or at least shielded you from what hurt. Now you’re s
When love, safety, or approval felt conditional growing up, performing became protection. You learned early that being good, clever, helpful, or exceptional got you what you needed — or at least shielded you from what hurt. Now you’re successful, capable, outwardly together… But inside, you might still feel like you’re only as worthy as your latest achievement. Still afraid of what might happen if you ever let the mask slip. Still bracing for disappointment, abandonment, or not being enough. This isn’t your fault. It’s a nervous system shaped by survival, not failure. Healing doesn’t mean losing your ambition, it means knowing your worth doesn’t depend on it. #emdr #complextrauma #trauma #highfunctioninganxiety #highfunctioning
When you grow up in an environment where love felt inconsistent or unpredictable, your nervous system becomes finely tuned to threat. You might not even realise you’re doing it, but you’re always picking up on the smallest changes in mood
After my dad died suddenly, my whole system went into fear mode. I became convinced that danger was always around the corner and that everyone I loved was going to die too. The world no longer felt safe. I tried to cope by controlling everything I c
When love, safety, or approval felt conditional growing up, performing became protection. You learned early that being good, clever, helpful, or exceptional got you what you needed — or at least shielded you from what hurt. Now you’re s